Tag Archives | Identity

The Power of Reflection | Rediscovering Who You Are

Regretting the past and reflecting on it are two drastically different things. One is laced with guilt and shame while the other is overflowing with wisdom and hope. You see, the past can give you hope, but you can’t hope in the past. Knowing the difference is essential. For much of my life I was so eager to hit the reset button on another year that I failed to spend time in quiet reflection. But a few years ago, I […]

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5 Reasons Why We Need Less Social Media in 2018

I get the irony. You’re probably reading this article because you clicked on a link on social media. But let’s set aside the caveats and have an honest conversation. This weekend my wife asked me, “Do you think you’re addicted to social media?” My defense was swift and certain, “It’s not an addiction.” Her question had struck a nerve. This morning, like every morning, I pulled up Facebook. But instead of the standard feed, I was met by a kind […]

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The Journey of Becoming a Fool

A couple of months ago, while playing around with Snapchat, I created an alter ego named Frank. It was silly and completely uncharacteristic for the professional, polished identity I had created, but it made me laugh—a lot. In fact, it was like something happened as I explored this part of me that set me free. Not that anything before was fake, I had just discovered something new—like when I first learned how to play the guitar. While many laughed along with me, […]

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To The Men in America…

There’s a small zoo in my hometown that boasts a lion as one of the main attractions—the fierce king of the jungle placed on display for all to see. But if you pay close attention, there’s something terribly wrong. This lion doesn’t roar. Instead, he lay silent with his face pressed against the dirt of the earth, exhausted. The breath of his nostrils stirring up the dust, longing for the freedom he once knew. At first, I imagine the lion […]

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The Fear of the Opinions of Others

There is a real desire in every human being to be approved. Everyone wants to believe they matter. And even though we say we don’t care what people think, we constantly give them the authority to validate who we are. As a result, we orchestrate our lives to please others—our boss, our spouse, our kids, our parents, our friends, even the guy we bump into at the coffee shop. The problem is, we lose sight of who we really are because we live the life that […]

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I am a Pastor

A man once approached me after a speaking engagement and asked, “So how long have you been a pastor?” “Oh, I’m not a pastor,” I quickly replied. I even threw in a chuckle as an attempt to further dismiss the absurdity of his suggestion. “You’re not?” He paused and tilted his head ever-so-slightly, locking his eyes with mine. “No, I’m not.” I repeated assertively. “Well,” he said with a smile, “keep listening.” That conversation has replayed in my mind like a broken […]

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Why America Needs The Breakfast Club

In 1985, John Hughes gathered five diverse high-schoolers together for a Saturday detention and proved to the world that we’re not all as different as we think. His creative genius, The Breakfast Club, was a coming-of-age drama that brought an evolving, individualistic, American culture into the mainstream. Yet thirty years later, we are still stuck in the same cultural stereotypes. As we wade into the murky water surrounding our upcoming presidential election, America has again become consumed by labels—our country is drowning in […]

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