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10 Money Tips that Cost Me $100,000 and a Few Thoughts on Being Rich

What most people fail to tell you about money is that it’s suffocating. The weight of financial pressure robs you of the very breath in your lungs. I remember the feeling of laying in bed at night, staring at the ceiling, playing out the events in my mind as it became more and more difficult to breathe. “What if” was a familiar foe that sang me to sleep with its lullaby of foreclosure and shame. I hated those nights. But for nearly […]

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The Cost of Success, Embracing Your Day Job, and Living Your Dreams

I moved into the room over the garage at my parent’s house when I was fifteen years old. Complete with its own bathroom and separate from the rest of the house, it felt like I was finally growing up. I was ready for high school, independence, and life on my own. Ten years later, as a broke salesman, my wife and I moved back into that same room over the garage. The real estate bubble had burst and left me […]

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What is the Church and Why Does it Matter?

When I say the word, church, what do you think about? To most Christians, the church is the place we attend on Sunday. For some that means ornate buildings and men in robes reciting ancient prayers that lull us to sleep. For others that means new age campuses, skinny-jeaned pastors, and high-energy services. Then, there are those who see the church as a place filled with hypocritical people who say one thing and do another. Those who have been so damaged in the name of Jesus that they couldn’t possibly give […]

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Dear Christians, Stop Arguing About The Shack

I didn’t read The Shack until ten years after it was originally published. I figured that a book depicting God as an older black woman was either heretical or just too weird for me to digest. But then, I watched an interview with the author. He was gentle, humble, and he pointed me toward God. After listening to him tell his story, I was compelled to read. Paul Young chose the daunting task of writing a letter in an attempt to explain his life’s […]

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The Importance of Faith Development

I began this blog in the Summer of 2013 as a response to something God was asking me to do. This adventure has produced more than half a million words, fifty speaking engagements, and an enriched perspective on life. More importantly, a calling from God to pastor. But the greatest challenge I see facing Christians today is a willingness to engage the principles of personal development without a willingness to engage in faith development.  I began writing what I thought was going to be […]

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What Are We Teaching Our Children?

This April, my wife and I will have been married for twelve years. And I’ve spent the majority of those twelve years bouncing back and forth on the pendulum of pleasing her and simply shutting off. It’s an exhaustive charade that has robbed me of peace and caused me to fall into the trap of loving her circumstantially. I treasure the fact that she challenges me and pushes me beyond my comfort zone, but it grates on every last nerve. For more than thirty years, I’ve been […]

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A Letter to My Family at Christmas

Christmas makes me feel like a kid again. Like I’m ten-years old sitting in the kitchen at Grandma Ham’s house on Christmas Eve, anxious and giddy about what Santa might bring. But as I come out of that hazy fog of fond memories, I realize that was twenty-five years ago. Here I am, days from turning thirty-five, a father to four beautiful children, and we’re having Christmas at my house. I see how this movie will play out and I so desperately want to press pause—to cherish these moments […]

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