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The Journey of Becoming a Fool

A couple of months ago, while playing around with Snapchat, I created an alter ego named Frank. It was silly and completely uncharacteristic for the professional, polished identity I had created, but it made me laugh—a lot. In fact, it was like something happened as I explored this part of me that set me free. Not that anything before was fake, I had just discovered something new—like when I first learned how to play the guitar. While many laughed along with me, […]

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We Raise Our Kids to Leave

When my son, Matthew, was born, my best friend sent me a song by Brad Paisley called, “Anything Like Me” along with a note that said, “Congrats, Senior.” The song tells the story of a dad who finds out that his first child is going to be a boy, to which his first thought is, “Heaven help him if he’s anything like me.” I would sit there and listen to that song on repeat, tears streaming down my face, as I […]

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What I Learned From A Homeless Twenty-Something

I’m ashamed to admit that I used to shy away from homeless people. But over the past few years, I’ve had quite a few encounters like the one I share below. I’ve come to appreciate them now because God’s either trying to get my attention or giving me an opportunity to learn something about myself that I’m otherwise unwilling to accept. In this case, I think it may have been both. ◊♦◊ I met Cody yesterday. As I walked into a […]

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The Fear of the Opinions of Others

There is a real desire in every human being to be approved. Everyone wants to believe they matter. And even though we say we don’t care what people think, we constantly give them the authority to validate who we are. As a result, we orchestrate our lives to please others—our boss, our spouse, our kids, our parents, our friends, even the guy we bump into at the coffee shop. The problem is, we lose sight of who we really are because we live the life that […]

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Finding Peace and Contentment in the Midst of Life’s Most Challenging Circumstances

The past seven months have been the most challenging seven months in my five years of being a father. Constant illness has shrouded our family and tried to rob us of peace. Whether it’s the health and well-being of those you love, your financial situation, or something completely different, I hope this testimony will provide unshakable truth and unwavering hope despite your circumstances. Our struggles began in October, when our four-year-old twins had their tonsils and adenoids out due to recurrent hospitalizations […]

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I Wrote One Song That I Never Shared With Anyone, Until Now

Listen to this post on the latest episode of my podcast, Whole Life Matters, or read below. For future podcast episodes, you can subscribe via iTunes, Stitcher Radio, or Google Play Music. Why Are You Running? When I was in college, I developed a love for playing the guitar. Looking back, I’d say that pushing through the pain of callouses served me well. My guitar became a refuge, and a handy resource to pay the bills when I was going […]

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The Reality of Depression at Christmas

I’ve recently gained a deeper appreciation for the reality of depression. Whether it was my own naivety or just an unwillingness to get honest about its reality, I refused to go there. But the truth is, many people will spend this Christmas and the coming year in a battle with this ugly condition, fighting chemical imbalances in their brains that predispose them to feel a certain way. And I would never suggest that I have any answers, but I wanted to unpack a […]

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