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The Power of Reflection | Rediscovering Who You Are

Regretting the past and reflecting on it are two drastically different things. One is laced with guilt and shame while the other is overflowing with wisdom and hope. You see, the past can give you hope, but you can’t hope in the past. Knowing the difference is essential. For much of my life I was so eager to hit the reset button on another year that I failed to spend time in quiet reflection. But a few years ago, I […]

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5 Reasons Why We Need Less Social Media in 2018

I get the irony. You’re probably reading this article because you clicked on a link on social media. But let’s set aside the caveats and have an honest conversation. This weekend my wife asked me, “Do you think you’re addicted to social media?” My defense was swift and certain, “It’s not an addiction.” Her question had struck a nerve. This morning, like every morning, I pulled up Facebook. But instead of the standard feed, I was met by a kind […]

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What to do When the Boat is Sinking | Thoughts on Honesty, Control, and Letting Go

You’re in the middle of the ocean. You’re the only person on the boat. And, the boat is sinking. . . . This picture represents my greatest fear—complete isolation in the middle of the ocean. While this exercise may seem unnecessary or unproductive to some, wrestling with it has allowed me to come to grips with a hard truth. By placing myself in this scenario and actually going there emotionally, I realized that I’ve held on to far too many […]

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Yes, They Serve Omelets in Heaven

There are certain people that we immortalize because we can’t imagine a world in which they don’t exist. These are the rare few who have blessed our lives with such abundance that they’ve imprinted themselves into our existence. They are part of our story. That’s how I felt about Ida Jean Mayhew. And I know I’m not alone. It was just too hard to imagine the day when her warm smile and charm wouldn’t welcome me when I walked through […]

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This is a Spiritual Problem | A Call to Awaken Faith in our Cities

In the wake of events like those that recently took place in Charlottesville, Virginia, we are forced to wrestle with the darkest parts of the human condition—a darkness that isn’t only seen in the events themselves, but in the pain and backlash which follow. These moments peel back the veneer of progress and expose the deep wounds that have yet to heal. Looking at the division and hatred that still exists in the United States, is like looking underneath the […]

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Four Years Later | A Heartfelt Update From the Desk of Matt Ham

Four years ago, I sat at this exact table I’m writing you from now. I scribbled these questions in my journal: “What am I supposed to do?” “Am I supposed to write?” “Am I supposed to speak?” “Who would listen?” “What will my story be?” Those questions were laced with naivety and fear. I was eager to begin, but I was scared to death of being rejected and I was uncertain in my own identity. I was a stressed out dad […]

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Overcoming Anxiety

Anxiety is one of those taboo things that we all experience in some form, but are rarely willing to talk about. The conversation surrounding such an issue is much bigger than I can address within this post. There are many reasons not to share something so personal, but I’m choosing to overlook those reasons. What I’m about to share,  I share for two reasons. One, because I know that someone reading may be in a similar season and I want […]

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