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Three Things I Learned at the Wells Fargo Championship

Over the past seven days, the PGA and its patrons descended upon Eagle Point Golf Club in Wilmington, North Carolina. For the first time in more than forty years, the sleepy coastal town of Wilmington played host to a PGA event—The Wells Fargo Championship. And I must say, it was an honor to see my hometown in the national spotlight for something other than Jim Cantore’s latest hurricane update. As Sunday’s dust settled, I think both the professional golf tour […]

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The Cost of Success, Embracing Your Day Job, and Living Your Dreams

I moved into the room over the garage at my parent’s house when I was fifteen years old. Complete with its own bathroom and separate from the rest of the house, it felt like I was finally growing up. I was ready for high school, independence, and life on my own. Ten years later, as a broke salesman, my wife and I moved back into that same room over the garage. The real estate bubble had burst and left me […]

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What Are We Teaching Our Children?

This April, my wife and I will have been married for twelve years. And I’ve spent the majority of those twelve years bouncing back and forth on the pendulum of pleasing her and simply shutting off. It’s an exhaustive charade that has robbed me of peace and caused me to fall into the trap of loving her circumstantially. I treasure the fact that she challenges me and pushes me beyond my comfort zone, but it grates on every last nerve. For more than thirty years, I’ve been […]

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How Do We Heal the Division in America?

America has become incredibly divided. But one of the most convicting things is the response of so many Christians to this divide. There seems to be an eager willingness to quote Jesus in spite of a rampant unwillingness to actually emulate Him to others. In a culture that finds Christianity difficult to believe, this makes it utterly unbelievable. In a culture of division, it’s simply not okay to hold up a LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR sign while throwing stones at anyone who doesn’t agree with you. While […]

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We Raise Our Kids to Leave

When my son, Matthew, was born, my best friend sent me a song by Brad Paisley called, “Anything Like Me” along with a note that said, “Congrats, Senior.” The song tells the story of a dad who finds out that his first child is going to be a boy, to which his first thought is, “Heaven help him if he’s anything like me.” I would sit there and listen to that song on repeat, tears streaming down my face, as I […]

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The Role of a Father

It’s 5:30am and my daughter, Sara James, is sitting in her swing beside me. She’s just learned how to touch her tongue to her upper lip and it fascinates her. It fascinates me as well. I love staring into her clear, blue eyes as they cut me to my core. As her father, I feel a sense of gratitude that is inexpressible. When she was born earlier this year, it rekindled something within me that seemed to have been lost in the challenges of […]

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What’s Your Praise-to-Criticism Ratio?

Last week, in the midst of trying to get four kids to bed, my wife and I exchanged four negative comments without even paying attention to the impact it had on an already chaotic situation. We became highly emotional and it sent the kids into a similar state. In that moment, an incredibly convicting thought emerged: If we tracked everything we said, everything we heard, and everything we saw in any given day, what would the ratio of negative to positive really […]

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