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It’s Taken Me Thirty-Five Years to Learn This…

For selfish reasons, being born the week after Christmas has its pitfalls. But the days between Christmas and New Year prove to be a great time for honest reflection. But this year, that reflection hasn’t been so easy. I turned thirty-five years old this week. I have to pause and let it sink in because life has a cruel way of speeding up without warning. Before we can blink, years have passed, our kids are grown up, and we find […]

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You Reap What You Sow

As I watched the aftermath of the Presidential election and the subsequent fallout on social media, I saw emotions ranging from excitement and joy to pure, uninhibited fear. I couldn’t help but think of that suspenseful moment in a reality show where the winner is finally announced. As the confetti falls and the credits roll, our eyes stayed glued to the screen in disbelief of how it is ending. In an odd way, this election will go down as the greatest reality show in history. But […]

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The State of Your Union

I woke up this morning, as I do most mornings, and read through the trending news on Facebook. Now I’m not sure how accurate it is given that Facebook controls who sees what, but these are the headlines I saw: SNOOP DOGG: DONALD TRUMP A RECKLESS MOTHER______ POKEMON GO REALLY DISTRACTS DRIVERS As I read through, it really begged the question: “Don’t we have better things to talk about?” Have we really resorted to chasing invisible creatures in our cars with our […]

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After the Storm

Growing up as a kid in Coastal North Carolina, the threat of hurricanes was a staple—just like tornadoes for those in the midwest, earthquakes for those out west, and snow storms for those in the northeast, every geographic location has its nemesis. This week, Hurricane Hermine swept through the southeast and left a swath of damage in its wake, affecting millions along the coast with flooding and power outages just ahead of the holiday weekend. As the storm passed through, I went to Wrightsville […]

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Lessons From a Millennial

I recently sat down to lunch with a millennial. I originally met this young man through a church mentoring program a few years ago. From day one, I’ve known that he was destined for great things. My intuition wasn’t far off. Less than a year out of college, he’s employed by the “Best Bank in America” according to American Banker Magazine and he’s already moving upward in a rapidly growing niche-lending environment. He invited me to join him at their in-house, […]

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We Raise Our Kids to Leave

When my son, Matthew, was born, my best friend sent me a song by Brad Paisley called, “Anything Like Me” along with a note that said, “Congrats, Senior.” The song tells the story of a dad who finds out that his first child is going to be a boy, to which his first thought is, “Heaven help him if he’s anything like me.” I would sit there and listen to that song on repeat, tears streaming down my face, as I […]

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The Fear of the Opinions of Others

There is a real desire in every human being to be approved. Everyone wants to believe they matter. And even though we say we don’t care what people think, we constantly give them the authority to validate who we are. As a result, we orchestrate our lives to please others—our boss, our spouse, our kids, our parents, our friends, even the guy we bump into at the coffee shop. The problem is, we lose sight of who we really are because we live the life that […]

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