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Dear Christians, Stop Arguing About The Shack

I didn’t read The Shack until ten years after it was originally published. I figured that a book depicting God as an older black woman was either heretical or just too weird for me to digest. But then, I watched an interview with the author. He was gentle, humble, and he pointed me toward God. After listening to him tell his story, I was compelled to read. Paul Young chose the daunting task of writing a letter in an attempt to explain his life’s […]

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The Importance of Faith Development

I began this blog in the Summer of 2013 as a response to something God was asking me to do. This adventure has produced more than half a million words, fifty speaking engagements, and an enriched perspective on life. More importantly, a calling from God to pastor. But the greatest challenge I see facing Christians today is a willingness to engage the principles of personal development without a willingness to engage in faith development.  I began writing what I thought was going to be […]

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What Are We Teaching Our Children?

This April, my wife and I will have been married for twelve years. And I’ve spent the majority of those twelve years bouncing back and forth on the pendulum of pleasing her and simply shutting off. It’s an exhaustive charade that has robbed me of peace and caused me to fall into the trap of loving her circumstantially. I treasure the fact that she challenges me and pushes me beyond my comfort zone, but it grates on every last nerve. For more than thirty years, I’ve been […]

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It’s Taken Me Thirty-Five Years to Learn This…

For selfish reasons, being born the week after Christmas has its pitfalls. But the days between Christmas and New Year prove to be a great time for honest reflection. But this year, that reflection hasn’t been so easy. I turned thirty-five years old this week. I have to pause and let it sink in because life has a cruel way of speeding up without warning. Before we can blink, years have passed, our kids are grown up, and we find […]

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A Letter to My Family at Christmas

Christmas makes me feel like a kid again. Like I’m ten-years old sitting in the kitchen at Grandma Ham’s house on Christmas Eve, anxious and giddy about what Santa might bring. But as I come out of that hazy fog of fond memories, I realize that was twenty-five years ago. Here I am, days from turning thirty-five, a father to four beautiful children, and we’re having Christmas at my house. I see how this movie will play out and I so desperately want to press pause—to cherish these moments […]

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The History of Santa Claus

I remember being a kid, laying in bed, unable to even close my eyes, my heart thumping and my mind racing in anticipation for what Santa might bring this year. Although my friends refused to believe, I had faith that it was all real—that Santa wasn’t some made-up, imaginary story that my parents lovingly went along with. It was around my eleventh or twelfth Christmas when I started finding receipts and gift bags that caused me to question. But hope is a powerful thing. Deep […]

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Learning to Give Thanks Through the Pain

Earlier this week, a friend of mine named Bill reminded me that the holidays are not always joyful. Bill lost his wife to cancer a few years ago, and as much as he doesn’t intend for it to happen, the holidays have a way of reminding him of what he’s lost. In those moments, it’s tough to give thanks. Bill’s encouragement struck a chord with me because, honestly, I’m guilty of overlooking other’s pain by always trying to combat it with positivity. But […]

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